How do one feels during a heartbreak?

By Ashnoor Kaur

I wish I were a little girl again because skinned knees are easier to fix than a broken heart.———Julia Roberts

The heartbreaks are never easy, at first, it suffocates you, it makes you feel miserable like you have no strength left in you to deal with it.

You start feeling like everyone is your enemy or no one loves you,

or even you start hating the word love

or starts running away from those things that you two used to do together or makes you remember of them

whether it was singing songs together, or running away from the songs which you two used to dedicate to each other, or watching series together, going out for dates, or the hilarious screenshots that you have of them, or the chats that are still saved somewhere.

Many things remind you of them and maybe they will always stay close to your heart and nothing or no one can take their place.

Well, people leave but memories always stay.

But at the same time, you start escaping your realities

at first making excuses just not to socialize and feeling like to “locking yourself in a room and never coming out again”, sleeping all day and night, not eating properly, listening to sad music to make you feel even worse, having dilemma not to do anything in life, just slowly giving up on yourself, not taking care, all day crying and laying in your bed, overthinking, feeling irritated or having this urge just to talk to the person who broke your heart into pieces, who gave you this unbearable pain and anxiety.

Cursing yourself that why did you even give them a chance? and at the same point thinking that you can never regret them cause they made you feel so special and loved at some point time in your life that no one else could, but at the same time you also forget that they are the reason behind this that here you are all broken and shattered into thousand pieces. Or just remembering the bitter words that they said at the time of leaving you or the bitter words that you said to them, Or asking yourself multiple questions that

Where did it all go wrong? How did we both get so toxic to each other?

Why did I just depend on that person so much and lose myself in the process?

Why did I just trust him/her more than myself?

Feeling this way that I won’t be able to love again or feel this type of love again?

Will I ever again be able to give love another chance in my life?

Because of your this heartbreak or past heartbreaks not being able to put your trust in someone else again!!

You must have a lot of questions on your mind right now, or all your thoughts jumbled in such a way that they can’t be untangled again, you just feel trapped,

Or start questioning yourself that maybe you are the one that is so complicated that no one can love you in the right way.

The smallest explanation to this heartbreak and questions are your expectations and trust that you had shown in that one person, that you were so sure about and thought that they’ll just stay and won’t leave you, they will fulfill their promise of staying with you even at your worst, will love you no matter what the situation is,

but when the actual reality hits and this so-called “fairy tales” ends and this person that you are so in love with, is the one who just packs their all stuff and just leaves you, without any explanation or trying harder to make this work and fighting for your this relationship even when once you meant the world to them, they just don’t find any reason to stay but just to run away because of few complications that you guys recently had?

Sometimes people do make some harsh decisions in so much of a hurry, that they don’t know what they are doing in their life and regret it later on when its too late and the harm is already done

Well they think, they are doing wrong with the other person by leaving them in between or without saying anything or without giving it one more chance to work or clearing everything out, but the reality is that they did not just betray the person they love but themselves too.

Well, Somedays you’ll heal, somedays you’ll break, but both the days you’ll learn something that never expects anything from anyone, perhaps if you want to expect, expect from yourself and you’ll see the change, that you’ll never gonna feel disappointed or find yourself again in this type of situation.

Maybe this is what life is when we just start getting comfortable in our life, with someone or something everything changes, because that what life is, it’s all about making you uncomfortable and getting you out from your comfort zone so that you can learn “how to survive alone in life”

Some decisions have to be made by just you, nobody else.

So take a deep breath and repeat after me “It’s just a matter of time and I’ll move on one day.

Yes, it will take a lot of time to move on, maybe it will take years to move on, and feel happy again.

But till then start loving and putting yourself first, if you can love someone else this much then just think how much you’ll love yourself.

So start working on yourself, love and accept yourself the way you are.

And trust me you are perfect even with your imperfections.

Well I know its hard to believe me on this but one day, when you’re going to wake up they won’t be the first thing on your mind.

Till then happy healing I believe in you.

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Well heartbreaks are never easy, and everyone has gone through this or still going through from this situation. Well I hope you will heal from this one day. Don’t lose hope and keep loving yourself.

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